tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8466385.post4695993476972612730..comments2024-03-28T23:25:07.821+00:00Comments on Jean's Knitting: Jeanhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12038517988391228260noreply@blogger.comBlogger8125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8466385.post-12874729587959203252015-10-22T18:10:21.804+01:002015-10-22T18:10:21.804+01:00The painkiller removal might not pep him up. I tak...The painkiller removal might not pep him up. I take painkillers that give me a bit of energy and remove my ability to feel tired (obvs I'm not taking them for that, but for chronic pain, it's just a nice side effect), but the exact same drug at the same dosage wipes my mom out and she's exhausted and can't get anything done.<br />I agree on needing to carve time out for yourself. Maybe take the hour he was/is using to nap and call it "Jean's Sanity Hour" and make it quite clear that unless it's an emergency (of the fell down type, not the I can't find this book I want type), this hour is your time and he needs to entertain himself and leave you alone. He may not like it, but that's his problem, not yours. Melfinahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14939155022202916671noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8466385.post-86132141059797915112015-10-22T17:04:34.852+01:002015-10-22T17:04:34.852+01:00Of course, you could always give him a task of his...Of course, you could always give him a task of his own, say, keeping Perdita entertained for a bit while you knit. Then you could all be in the same room, but with different activities.Camhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06863241891948280552noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8466385.post-88674446957720043772015-10-22T14:34:12.647+01:002015-10-22T14:34:12.647+01:00Doesn't have to be a nap, a lie down with a bo...Doesn't have to be a nap, a lie down with a book or DVD on a tablet would suffice. And you could make a point of "doing the same" but somewhere else, no? Isabellahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00665920652403665430noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8466385.post-77894880991200742442015-10-22T13:59:01.919+01:002015-10-22T13:59:01.919+01:00I hope your husband still wants a bit of a nap. N...I hope your husband still wants a bit of a nap. Naps are restorative. Prayers for you, Jean. Cheer and inspiration. Can you take a photo of the vest?Pom Pomhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01524994024698986829noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8466385.post-64360729987706158142015-10-22T13:29:53.233+01:002015-10-22T13:29:53.233+01:00The most recent NYTimes Think Like a Doctor column...The most recent NYTimes Think Like a Doctor column was on thiamine deficiency and the effect on the brain. I never think like a doctor but I enjoy reading about it. As KayT says, knitting is your thiamine.Mary Louhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05588244535423212079noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8466385.post-77616440417840327112015-10-22T13:05:43.624+01:002015-10-22T13:05:43.624+01:00I agree. If he's feeling well enough to do wi...I agree. If he's feeling well enough to do without a nap or pain meds he's well enough to do without you for a few minutes several times a day. After all, you would not be much help to him if you LOST YOUR MIND from not knitting!kayTnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8466385.post-19190663424587975092015-10-22T12:59:06.988+01:002015-10-22T12:59:06.988+01:00Can you have some You time when the carers are the...Can you have some You time when the carers are there? Can you pick a half hour, twice a day, when nothing urgent needs to be done for your husband, to go into another room and shut the door. He is old enough to understand that you dont need to be on duty 24/7<br /><br />Sorry if that sounds harsh, but I have been a long term carer and you will burn out quickly if you dont set boundaries to recharge yourself. And its easier to start off the right way than to change set patterns.<br /><br />If your husband can understand that you need this time for your own health, I am sure he will be alright with this.fibreclaireUKhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09846419669691216627noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8466385.post-25395337800091466052015-10-22T12:42:30.673+01:002015-10-22T12:42:30.673+01:00Jean, I spent 1988-89 at Cambridge, and traveled h...Jean, I spent 1988-89 at Cambridge, and traveled home to the States to spend Christmas with my mother, who was quite ill, and younger brother. I had been at home for two weeks before Lockerbie, and hadn't flown Pan Am, but I remember clearly the intensive questioning at airport check-in in London, unlike anything I'd experienced before, and all the anxious phone calls from friends and relatives after Lockerbie, checking to see...just in case (in those pre-Facebook and e-mail days, when the world did not always know one's whereabouts). One of my closest friends (to this day) lost a number of classmates. Alexander's miss was obviously much nearer than mine, but I, too, carry a sense of the unknowable workings of fate when I think of that flight.Kristenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01432492923545133462noreply@blogger.com